Unhappy

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click4it
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Unhappy

Postby click4it » Tue Aug 15, 2017 8:53 am

Relationship and empty nest syndrome. :|

Polar Bear
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Re: Unhappy

Postby Polar Bear » Tue Aug 15, 2017 12:53 pm

I fully understand the empty nest syndrome, all of our adult children now have their own lives and half of them are spread across the globe.
When I am with those grandchildren who live nearby it gently increases the absence of those who are across the seas.

A saying I always remember is --- We will always miss our children more than they will miss us.

Howeverever, you mention relationship also. Methinks that's what needs attention because the nest was always going to be empty some day.
It is hard on relationships when we have to deal with RLS, up walking through the night, often also during the early evening, and for some of us all through the day. It is currently afternoon 2.45pm here and my lower legs are jigging just to let me get this post finished and I can get walking.

Also, although I start off the nighttime with my husband often I end up in the guest bedroom. Just so I can try and lie down (I'm exhausted) and thrash about because my legs want to, until I can stick it no longer and have to get up again. It takes a very understanding partner to put up with the hassle of this and all the other nuisances. Last night we were both downstairs at 4am, unfortunately I had awakened him.
If you are sad about your relationship - are you and your other half able to discuss matters.
I wish you well.
Betty
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Re: Unhappy

Postby Rustsmith » Tue Aug 15, 2017 3:43 pm

I will agree with what Polar Bear has said. Empty nest is part of the life of almost every parent and is a sign that you raised them correctly. But relationship problems are a totally different matter. My relationship with my wife has been the only thing that has kept me going at times. When a doctor had me so overmedicated for migraines that I found that I lost all emotions, my feelings for my wife were the only thing that was able to break through and convince me to tell the doctor that she was wrong. And when my RLS results in severe depression, my relationship is the only thing that keeps me from doing something stupid. In a way, I am fortunate that my wife has had a different neurological condition for many years. This helps her understand what things are like for me now. She is actually starting to enjoy the role of caregiver when my RLS gets really bad and I am so sleep deprived that I cannot make decisions, like increasing one of my meds or taking it earlier than normal. Without her and our relationship, there is a very good chance that I would not be here anymore.
Steve

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Re: Unhappy

Postby ViewsAskew » Tue Aug 15, 2017 7:34 pm

Tell us more about what is happening with you.
Ann - Take what you need, leave the rest

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Yankiwi
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Re: Unhappy

Postby Yankiwi » Wed Aug 16, 2017 3:30 am

Rustsmith, your love for your wife shines through in your posts.

Sleepless at night
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Re: Unhappy

Postby Sleepless at night » Sun Jul 22, 2018 9:02 pm

Please be happy that you DO have a relationship.
Some of us have no one.

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Re: Unhappy

Postby debbluebird » Wed Jul 25, 2018 9:49 am

I like what Betty and Steve posted.


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