exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

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exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby Bats&Hummer3 » Sat Aug 08, 2015 4:05 pm

People without RLS say they're grumpy when they don't sleep well. Just imagine 0 minutes of sleep with severe RLS when it is out of control and the meds are no longer working. It affects perception, mental processing is slowed, mood is incorrigible, energy is completely lacking to do the required job and housework of the day.... oh... did someone say exercise regularly? Meds are always needing adjustment - costly. I've had RLS for a long time and I have a good sleep specialist.
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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby Polar Bear » Sat Aug 08, 2015 6:58 pm

i can empathise with all you say.
Unfortunately I don't have a good neurologist or sleep specialist.
My GP admits he knows little about RLS and he is guided by information that I provide.
A case sometimes of the blind leading the blind !!
However, I am fortunate that here in the UK we have free prescription medications.
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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby Yankiwi » Sun Aug 09, 2015 4:56 am

I agree with Bats that RLS affects practically everything. It's the pits.
In New Zealand prescriptions are practically free—$5 for three months of the ones that are "funded". The catch is that not everything is available, for instance oxycodone.

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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby badnights » Sun Aug 30, 2015 1:09 am

The effect of poor sleep - even when medications are "controlling" the symptoms - is devastating. It's a life changer. It's the difference between generating a scientific paper and being unable to even read one, let alone do original research. It's the difference between doing all the things on your to-do list with time to spare, and being unable to do even one of those things. It's the difference between smiling easily when things go wrong, rolling with the punches, gracious acceptance, and falling apart at the slightest downturn, unable to even think of how you might deal with one simple thing, let alone dealing.

It sneaks up on us, too; it fools us into thinking maybe we were heading down a long slow decline anyway. I've been lucky enough to have it back off from time and time, so I get a sniff of how things used to be. And I know, then, that I am failing at all the things I try to do only because the Sleep Thief has robbed my brain of acuity, of the ability to think. Not because I am getting old or was declining anyway; no, only because of this damn disease that sucks the life out of me while I go on walking and talking as if I still exist.
Beth - Wishing you all restful sleep tonight
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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby Polar Bear » Sun Aug 30, 2015 1:21 pm

badnights - what a really good explanatory post on the effects of lack of sleep.
This is why 6 years ago I was happy to retire from work - when just a few years previous I could not contemplate the possibility of full time retirement.
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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby Aipulu » Sat Sep 05, 2015 3:29 pm

Dear Abby,

I have been living with my companion for 20 years. We are constant companions and have grown very close over the years. I can't imagine living without her.

But I am questioning our relationship, telling myself that am giving too much of myself and getting so little back. I am obsessed with her but compelled to meet her every need. She is moody and demands my attention doth day and night. I feel that I have no choice but to give into her every demand. Yet the more I resist the more she demands. I have little time or energy to enjoy the things that used to be me joy. I am emotionally flat and depressed; I take my SSRI daily. I am often tired and exhausted, having spent many nights dealing with the painful sensations that define our relationship.

Yet I am powerless to leave her. How did I get myself into this.mess? My dreams have become nightmares. What should I do.

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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby Rustsmith » Sun Sep 06, 2015 3:44 pm

Thank you Aipulu. This topic (an the entire board for that matter) rarely have enough humor. At first you had me wondering what this was and where it was going. But I really enjoyed it once I figured out what you were saying.
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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby Aipulu » Mon Sep 07, 2015 3:21 am

Thank you Steve. I was up all night with you know who and wrote this about 5 am. Then I went to bed not knowing if what I had written was funny. In fact reading it now I realize how it would take a while, if ever, to figure it out. Glad you did.

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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby ViewsAskew » Mon Sep 07, 2015 4:49 am

I figured it out, too, but only after a double read :-). Then I had quite a giggle.
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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby badnights » Mon Sep 07, 2015 5:00 am

Well, if you guys hadn't responded first, I'd have been replying in all seriousness :oops: :lol:
Beth - Wishing you all restful sleep tonight
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Re: exhaustion provides no reserve to deal with stress

Postby Polar Bear » Mon Sep 07, 2015 1:22 pm

I am glad of the previous comments...... I thought we'd got a post on a wrong thread...
Like badnights..... I took it seriously and at face value :oops: :lol:
Clearly, as Steve comments, we need to find and get used to a little humour.

Excellent Aipulu.
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