Hi to all,
Brandy, I'm with Ann on this one. There comes a day that you start asking yourself, was I worth what he was offering? The honest answer is, no, I'm worth more than that.
When anyone puts them self into a relationship fully, honestly, and honors that, you only deserve that back. That is not what he was offering you, thus he was not offering you what you were, ARE worth.
I think it's a slow process, like grief, but baby when that torked off stage hits, use it well. That is the time that pain or not, you know your worth and you'll protect it too!
I was told that I was fat,.......when I was pregnant!

DUH! But what my heart and emotions heard turned that silly stupid worthless statement into a world of hurt after my son was born. I let someone else put inside my heart a feeling that was not there before. And I allowed to myself to become less than what I was worth. Hard to admit, not sure I ever have, but I was 103 lbs for almost 5 yrs after the birth of my son. I'm 5'7" and should be around 130. I looked ill, in fact so ill my mom almost started to legally take my son from me. Nope, I don't think I've really said that to many people. Wow, it hurts, like it did then.
So I guess I could say that look at me now, look at Ann, look at so many of us that let others treat us for less than we were worth. Not anymore and never again.
Your worth is awesome and amazing. And yes I agree with Charlene that what love and support you showed to Jan, is just the same as what you should give yourself. No, this kind of pain is different and so many of us understand that all too well........BUT we also know that worth is going to make you rise, well above what this man failed to offer or show you.
Honey, take a breath and know that this too shall pass and you'll be in side the right path for good things to happen as planned.
God Bless You and your heart.
Love, many hugs, and the moon shining for you.
Lynne