LOL Zach, good idea.
Moonlight, this is not a new problem for me. I went for years kicking my husband until he trained himself to sleep curled up on 1/8 th of the bed.
When the RLS is really bad, but I do sleep, it's just awful because it's not rest, just exhaustion.
You and he are in a huge learning cycle right now.
1. You know the name.
2. Your trying hard to get the right treatment for the RLS.
3. He might think your the only ones that live this way, you know better because your here.
Moonlight we all practiced talking about RLS right here on this board. Not only to one another, but to those we cared to tell.....spouses, partners, family, friend, co-workers, bosses......you name it, I've tried to explain things to many people. Some will never understand, nor will the even empathize with you.
However, the more you understand this RLS stuff the better you'll get at talking about it.
It's just downright hard to do anything right when your exhausted and the RLS has taken a heavy toll. No two ways about it.
It's not that you can't win, just that your brain, body, and emotions are on the RLS train and his are trying to cope with you. Or, like my husband, he thouhgt if he just said or did the right thing it would go away, help me, or ??????? I don't know.
So on those lovely nights that RLS is away, try to Not "ignore him" and them sleep well.
The plus on this is a double sided thing. He's relieved and happy, and you are in a place where you can pay more attention. Hard to do without sleep.
Your not wrong, nor is he, you both just need to calmly have a chat about this. Try taking him to dinner and ask if the two of you could talk about this. Better yet, take a nice long walk.....you almost have to work things out!
You both need a chance to express your side of the story and you both need to understand that RLS has this out of control whammy on the person that has it.
Would he act this way if you were in an accident and hurt? No, so you know deep down he truely cares and most likely, wants more than anything to make it right. He just can't, but he can help.
MY Hugs to you ((((((((Moonlight)))))))
Lynne