Cuddling up with a lover for RLS sufferers?

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Cuddling up with a lover for RLS sufferers?

Postby JPT99 » Fri Jan 15, 2010 9:03 am

Is it possible?

I know it certainly isn't for me.
How I envy seeing couples snuggles up on the coach by the fire and know that that's not possible for me.

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Postby Polar Bear » Fri Jan 15, 2010 9:37 am

Cuddling is a nightmare and pretty impossible when symptoms are active. As I now take medication there are times when all is ok, and grab the opportunity :)
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Weed

Postby doety » Sat Jun 12, 2010 3:06 am

If you can legally obtain some marijuana, roll one and take a couple of puffs (remember it's stronger now!), you will want to be close and cuddle. I promise.

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Postby Betty/WV » Sat Jun 12, 2010 3:50 am

Oh, if I only had a lover to cuddle up with. I sure would give it a try, RLS or not.

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Postby Lil72Shasta » Wed Jul 13, 2011 11:29 pm

Cuddling helps me but since there is rarely anyone in my life to cuddle with, lots of big pillows or sleeping on the sofa can give some of the same benefit.

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Postby badnights » Thu Jul 14, 2011 10:45 pm

I recently (against all odds, given my screwy life thanks to WED/RLS) started seeing someone. I've discovered that my RLS acts up when I'm trying to sleep and he so much as rests a hand on me. Lord when did my life get like this!?

And quite apart from that, I can't sleep at all in the same bed as him, unless I take a full zopiclone, whereas a half usually does it when I'm alone.

However, I'm lucky enough that I can snuggle on the couch for short periods of time in the evenings, before I have to get up and do squats. He's very understanding about it all. Remarkable.
Beth - Wishing you all restful sleep tonight
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Postby Polar Bear » Fri Jul 15, 2011 12:57 am

Beth, I'm very happy for you that you have found someone who is understanding. I spend half my nights wandering and popping back into bed now and again. I can manage better if I get up and go to the spare bedroom but am reluctant to make this the norm. Even if I end up in the guest room I try and get back into bed with hubby before its time to get up.
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Postby ViewsAskew » Fri Jul 15, 2011 4:35 am

Remarkable is good :D
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Postby cornelia » Fri Jul 15, 2011 11:17 am

That sounds like a lovely man and long may he be part of your life.

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Postby helen1965 » Thu Nov 17, 2011 5:28 am

Great that a guy is trying to understand you RLS! My partner and I now sleep in two separate rooms, I have very reluctantly accepted that. I figure that even if I don't sleep he might. But I always have a cuddle in the morning. It's so hard trying to still keep that bond .

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Postby Polar Bear » Thu Nov 17, 2011 11:07 am

I sometimes end up in the spare bedroom but always start the night in our bedroom. If symptoms get too difficult I may get up for an hour or I go into the other room. Generally hubby might be already asleep when I do this and I try and be back in our bed before he gets up, or awakens. But he is always able to tell me that I've been gone.
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