Ruined Relationships

Share how living with this disease can and does impact your relationships. How do you cope? What questions to you have?
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Re: Ruined Relationships

Postby Polar Bear » Fri Jul 18, 2014 10:58 pm

It is a dreadful situation where a family is torn apart because of a medication .... which is legitimate and doctor prescribed.
My heart breaks at the thought of a little baby not know a grandparent.
You say you have tried everything so I guess that mediation via a family member has already been thought about.
I just can't imagine how I would cope.
Betty
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Re: Ruined Relationships

Postby ViewsAskew » Sat Jul 19, 2014 7:18 am

Suckerbeagle wrote:
debbluebird wrote:Thanks rthom. I'm up and down with my moods. Actually I'm up most of the time. What worries me is my relationship with my daughter. It's pretty much ruined. As far as the other relationships are concerned I have made amends and moved on. With her it's not that simple. I've done everything that I can. I just can't let her go. What makes it worse is I haven't seen her in a year or spoken to her since last Sept. They now have orders to go to South Korea in Aug. They will be there 2 or 3 years. So who knows how long it will be before I see them. Before all of the mess I would be seeing them before they leave. Now I won't. It's just hard.


Oh do I ever feel for you. I have the same heartbreaking situation with my daughter. In this case it seems that it's because I have to use hydrocodone to manage symptoms. Her husband is a recovering alcoholic and doesn't tolerate drug use. I was thrown out of their house two Thanksgivings ago. My mother-in-law insists that I did nothing wrong. It's no use and I have to accept never seeing her again. She had a baby and never told me. Now I have a grandson who I will never see. When my father, her beloved grandfather died I go no word, not even an email. She was the very light of my life. Everyone who saw us together cannot believe that this is happening. I've tried everything to reach her. I am 71 years old and my biggest fear is that I might die and she will have to live with the remorse for the rest of her life. I wish I had never told anyone about this condition. My life had been an open book—I never dreamed this could happen.


That is so tough. I do hope she finds a way to reconnect to you. It's so easy to see things in black and white - but rarely helpful!
Ann - Take what you need, leave the rest

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Re: Ruined Relationships

Postby debbluebird » Sat Jul 19, 2014 3:53 pm

Suckerbeagle wrote:
debbluebird wrote:Thanks rthom. I'm up and down with my moods. Actually I'm up most of the time. What worries me is my relationship with my daughter. It's pretty much ruined. As far as the other relationships are concerned I have made amends and moved on. With her it's not that simple. I've done everything that I can. I just can't let her go. What makes it worse is I haven't seen her in a year or spoken to her since last Sept. They now have orders to go to South Korea in Aug. They will be there 2 or 3 years. So who knows how long it will be before I see them. Before all of the mess I would be seeing them before they leave. Now I won't. It's just hard.


Oh do I ever feel for you. I have the same heartbreaking situation with my daughter. In this case it seems that it's because I have to use hydrocodone to manage symptoms. Her husband is a recovering alcoholic and doesn't tolerate drug use. I was thrown out of their house two Thanksgivings ago. My mother-in-law insists that I did nothing wrong. It's no use and I have to accept never seeing her again. She had a baby and never told me. Now I have a grandson who I will never see. When my father, her beloved grandfather died I go no word, not even an email. She was the very light of my life. Everyone who saw us together cannot believe that this is happening. I've tried everything to reach her. I am 71 years old and my biggest fear is that I might die and she will have to live with the remorse for the rest of her life. I wish I had never told anyone about this condition. My life had been an open book—I never dreamed this could happen.


As you probably know, I feel for you also. It's now been two years since I saw my daughter or grandchildren. They didn't go to South Korea, but went to Kentucky instead, but they might as well be on the moon. The only change is that she now calls me once in awhile along with e-mails. It really doesn't help though, because I know I will never seen them again. The only thing I can hope for is maybe time will heal.

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Re: Ruined Relationships

Postby Polar Bear » Sat Jul 19, 2014 7:48 pm

My heart aches for everyone with loss of contact.
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Re: Ruined Relationships

Postby EeFall » Mon Jul 21, 2014 7:26 pm

I'm over all the people who don't have a clue. If they can't understand, won't understand, and are too thick headed to understand, like, love, or deal with me, then tough. It is their loss and my good fortune to know now rather than later that they are superficial.


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