I'm 59 and have suffered with RLS since I was pregnant the last time, 36 years ago. However, while I was taking care of my aged father, I realized that he had it, too. So, it may be primary.
Over the years, RLS has come and gone. It was never gone long, though. In recent years it seems like I get it every night... and it's worse. I would rate it as severe and my right arm is starting to act up. I had a sleep study done about 20 years ago. Turns out I have periodic limb movement, too. And, if none of that is bad enough, I also have pretty bad insomnia.
It goes like this: I get tired. I go to bed and pray that I can fall asleep before my legs start jumping. (That's what I call it- hence my screen name.) Most of the time, I can't. I get up, still tired, and decide whether to stay up until I pass out or take one of my precious few percocet or xanax to make it all go away. Percocet works like a charm! Every time. Xanax knocks me out. Every time. But- Good luck finding a doc to prescribe either one of them these days. (War on drugs my butt. War on patients!) I had a very good doc who gave me percocet for severe pain that I had. I accidentally found out that it works for my RLS, too. He left medicine, but I still have a few left. I also beg for the leftovers of friends and family. I'm almost out of my previously prescribed xanax, as well. I dread those most severe nights where I won't be able to take anything. I'm very judicious. I am not addicted to either.
My new doc is very conservative. He will NOT prescribe opioids or xanax. I don't want to Dr. shop. So, I am doing more research- although I have been doing it periodically for new information. That's what brought me here. No one I know and probably not my Dr. either understands what I go through- except for y'all. My husband is a peach and really tries. I think he gets it to some degree, but I don't think he quite knows the literal torture it can be. He encouraged me to start talking to Drs about it again. I gave up after not tolerating ropinirole and finding no relief from others including lyrica and neurontin. Now that I am reading more, the more I do not want anymore of the "dopamine drugs". I want opioids and/or xanax. I know they work.
I have ordered a good time release B complex to try and I take Vit D, large dose C and a good multi. I have tried the common sleeping aids including Benadryl which, sadly, I just took 100 mg of not knowing that it is bad for RLS. (Which is why I just took the percocet.) I don't believe I need iron (I have a full blood panel done every 3 months) and it's not something that I want to mess up given my age and years into menopause.
The first thing I do when I feel it coming on is to lay on that side. Sometimes, it works to stop it. Unfortunately I have pretty bad bursitis in my hips, so it can get very painful to do this for very long. I usually lay in bed tossing and turning for one to three hours before I give in and get up.
Other than trying to help myself, I think I will go to a psych doc for xanax. I have a bona fide anxiety disorder. I may try a neurologist, too. I am just loathe to run to one specialists appointment after another. I already have enough! I have a nasty and painfully debilitating form of psoriasis, psoriatic arthritis, ADD (currently unmedicated) and bi-polar to name a few. I'm a wreck! LOL! Getting old is NOT for the feint of heart.
If you have read along this long, thanks a bunch. Nice to know someone understands and cares.

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